24th August 2018
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Question: ย If someone didn’t have a good relationship with their parents and both of their parents have passed away then what can the child do for their parents now to make things better?
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In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
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Answer
The most paramount of good deeds in the sight of Allฤh Almighty after worshipping Him is being dutiful towards oneโs parents whether in the state of happiness or in reluctance. There could be many reasons as to why you didnโt have a good relationship with your parents so, what I would primarily suggest you to do is to reflect on the nature of your personal relationship with them. If you are at fault then seek sincere forgiveness from Allฤh Almighty for your shortcomings in regards to their rights. Nevertheless, this does not mean that by mere seeking forgiveness you become absolved from your responsibilities. ย Islฤm has set guidelines of how to honour them even after their death. Sayyidunฤ Mฤlik Ibn Rabiโah as-Saโdi radhiyallahu anhu relates that we were once seated around the Messenger of Allฤh sallallahu alayhi wasallam when suddenly one man from Bani Salmah (a name of a particular tribe) came and asked, โO Messenger of Allฤh sallallahu alayhi wasallam! Is there any act of kindness towards my parents remaining which I can do even after their death?โ He said, โYes! Praying for them, seeking forgiveness for them, fulfilling their oaths after their death, to join ties with relatives because (your) relationship was not established (with them) except through them (parents) and to honour their friends.โ (Abลซ Dฤwood)
The above Hadeeth hopefully answers your query as to what you and your other siblings must do after the demise of your parents.ย May Allฤh Almighty forgive your parents and grant them Jannatul-Firdaws, ฤmeen.
[Allฤh Knows Best]
Written by (Mufti) Abdul Waheed
Answer Attested by Shaykh Mufti Saiful Islam
JKN Fatawa Department

